Your Questions About Best Bed Sheets 2010

Chris asks…
family problems am I in the wrong here?
I’m expecting my first baby Feb. 27, 2010 & everyone is very excited about my new arrival! My mom is the type of person that has to be in control of everything. Surprisingly when I first got pregnant she seemed ok, she offered me a ton of baby stuff she had leftover from myself & my sibilings. I’m 23 & been married & living in my own home for 2 years now, I have a 20 year old brother & a 6 year old sister. She told me I could take what I wanted after I had my babyshower to see what I hadn’t gotten yet if I wanted to do that. Then a month later she told me she had no room for any of the baby stuff she had been saving for so long & she was bringing stuff over. She brought everything she owned without asking me what I wanted & didn’t want from her stuff. We live in a 2 bedroom condo & don’t have room for a ton of stuff & my hubby & I was soo overwhelmed!! But we appreciated everything she gave us. Later on after my shower I had absolutley no room for duplicates & some unnessasery stuff so I gave her back 3 things. 1) A pack & play because she had given me a bassanet & crib & I didn’t have anywhere to use it & had no room to store it. 2) whinnie the pooh comforter & sheet set because we were doing a nemo themed room & I wanted things to match & again had received soo many blankets & sheets that I had no place to store it to avoid giving it back to her 3) she gave me 3 diffrent car seats, all were expired & stained & were just gross looking. But the only reason I didn’t keep them was because they were expired. I kept all the clothes, christining outfit, bed, bassanett etc.
She became mad at me because I didn’t want her stuff & couldn’t understand why I didn’t want the carseats to save me money. I told her they expired & I wanted my kids to be safe & that the hospital probably wouldn’t allow me to leave with an expired seat. She told me that sounded like a crock of shit to make money & that she wanted them back to give to a friend who’s dad is a firefighter & said they were still good. But I don’t want to take the chance with my baby’s life just to make her happy so I nicely stood my ground saying I felt safer getting new seats. My brother, then took her side & got mad at me because he feels whatever she says is correct. I sent her an link to a website from a (firefighter mind you!) with reasons why carseats expire & got this e-mail back from her saying did you send that cause you thought I didn’t belive you & how she was only mad cause she was she was upset I didn’t want to use her stuff & it was sentimental to her. I told her that I kept everything I considered sentimental….all our baby clothes, the crib & bassanett. I don’t see carseats being sentimental or putting my child at risk for that reason. She said she was sorry but I can’t help feeling like my family considers me ungratefull. This is my baby & my turn to make desicions & I’m doing what I feel is best for my baby while still trying to keep the peace & its making me crazy!! Was I in the wrong for what I did? How do you deal with crazy moms or MIL’s while keeping your sanity? I know what I did is right & its what I wanted to do but she makes me feel soo bad sometimes!
Sorry for the rant & thanks to everyone in advance!
I know things are going to get worse when the baby comes & I don’t know how I’m going to deal with it without making myself upset & crazy!!! Please help
Seven: No I’m not asking her for money, I bought new carseats myself & I haven’t asked her for a dime, I actually want to be able to buy my child some stuff on my own! But thank you for your answer & to everyone I feel much better with all your answers

gloria answers:
She will get over this. You just have to deal with the fact that she’s going to still be your mother and want to mother you, regardless if you’re a mother too. I argue with my mom over stupid stuff, kids stuff, financial stuff. It never lasts for long. Just tell her exactly how you feel and stand your ground. Sounds like you’re doing just that. If she is still whining and complaining you can offer an apology but otherwise ignore her, she wants you to get bent out of shape over her controlling ways. That’s how control freaks ARE.
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